Does first time sex really hurt ? Things you must know!

You must have heard people saying that “If you're born with a vagina, the first time sex will be unpleasant and painful”. It goes without saying that this rumour is extremely unfortunate and unfair. It felt cruel to introduce the idea that sex can be painful on top of all the other things our impressionable middle school minds were already scared of, such as periods, armpit hair, and bras. Where exactly did the rumour originate? And perhaps more importantly, has it ever been true? 

Even while moderate discomfort is typical, it shouldn't hurt, whether from vaginal, anal, or even oral stimulation. Let's get this out of the way right away: Safe, consensual sex should always be enjoyable and never painful, despite the fact that most women experience unanticipated pain during sex at some point in their sexual lifetime. Having said that, the hymen, a tiny component of the female anatomy, is probably the source of the belief that the first time you have sex it will hurt. The hymen is a piece of tissue with a hole in it that is located close to the vaginal opening. It is unique, just like everything else in the human body.

There are a few possible causes of uncomfortable first-time intercourse, outside the potential little discomfort brought on by the hymen being stretched. Lack of lubrication continues to be a problem. Bring in the lubrication whenever possible for the optimum results in your sexual life. Using more lube is an excellent approach to battle vaginal dryness. Vaginal dryness can make sex unpleasant and irritable and can happen to anyone at any moment but it is more common in menopausal women.

Being a little anxious before engaging in sexual activity for the first time is quite normal. A new endeavour can be thrilling! However, if you experience extreme fear or worry, you should perhaps stand back and give the situation some thought.

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The first time you have sex doesn't have to hurt. You can lessen your discomfort and experience pain-free, joyful, and enjoyable sex by taking a few precautions. Foreplay plays a very important role in making the sex pleasurable and easy. You can feel more at peace by using a barrier device like a condom to help prevent STIs and possibly pregnancy. So, remember that sex should not hurt and if you get severe pain during sex you should consult a doctor!