First time sex: 6 important things to know!

Verified by Dr. Vaishali Sakpal Rane (MBBS, DGO Obstetrics and Gynaecology, DNB Obstetrics and Gynaecology)

Particularly in popular culture, there is a lot of anticipation before your first experience with sex. As a result, it's inevitable for many myths to form around sex, protection, sexually transmitted diseases (STIs), and even pregnancy. People of both genders have questions and concerns about getting that personal with someone. 

You must understand that this is a natural part of life and that your sexual and reproductive systems are designed to handle your sex life as long as it's healthy and you're in a safe environment both physically and emotionally. Before you begin sexual activity, you should be aware of the following facts:

Here are 6 important things to know before first time sex:

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No, It shouldn't hurt. 

It's a common misconception that the first time you have sex, it hurts. However, this is not entirely correct. You may be unpleasant at first, but this can be alleviated with lubricant. But once you figure it out, the soreness ought to go gone. It's natural to have some little discomfort when having intercourse for the first time, but it's not normal to experience stinging, frequent, acute pain when doing so. This might be an indication of dyspareunia. If sex continues to aggravate your pain, you should have yourself evaluated for an underlying problem. Pain during sex can be caused by endometriosis, uterine fibroids, cystitis, and other conditions.

“No” is the ultimate safeword

Remember that you are not required to do anything with which you are not comfortable. One of the most fundamental parts of a successful sexual relationship is open communication. Mention your wants, desires, and unpleasant feelings. Ask your companion to respect your decision if you need to say no. Be a great listener as well. If they reply no, instantly use the brakes. Sexual permission is provided freely, clear, specific, and reversible.

Sex isn’t everything

Yes, having sex can be quite enjoyable, and everyone has the right to a healthy sexual life if they so want. But, if you or your partner aren't in the mood, if there is an odd sex failure, or if you decide that sex isn't for you, understand that being sexually active is simply a part of your life, not all of it. There are alternative forms of intimacy, and not having sex need not mark the end of the world. Sex should be enjoyable and relaxing.

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 Orgasms take time (or not)

Orgasms are more tricky in practice than they appear in theory. When you have sex for the first time as a woman, you might not experience an orgasm. On the other side, if you're a male, you could discover that you reach your climax earlier than you anticipated. You may also have a seamless experience the first time, but if you do encounter these difficulties, don't fret - time and practice will generally straighten them out.

Bleeding

There are several misconceptions concerning bleeding after having intercourse for the very first time. The first is that you MUST bleed a little; else, you are not a virgin. WRONG! Some women bleed only a few drops the first time, while others bleed the first two or three times, and still others do not bleed at all. Sometimes a few drops occur the next day, which is why it's a good idea to keep some daily pads on hand for a few days after. When having intercourse for the first time, bleeding may or may not occur.    

Practice safe sex

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Whether it’s your first time or not, you should always practice safe sex by using barrier contraception like male or female condoms. Using condoms prevents unwanted pregnancy and STIs. If you ever get in a situation where you had sex without contraceptives, there are methods of emergency contraception that you can opt for after taking to a doctor.

When you have sex for the first time, you may experience a range of feelings, including happiness, excitement, perplexity, and even a combination of all of them. Communicate your demands to your man and find out what he needs as well. Whether it's a cuddle, a conversation, or even time alone, give yourself what you need while still providing it for your partner.