When people are asked about period sex, most often give an awkward look and flinch their faces. We have so many misconceptions, especially about issues revolving around sexual health matters. Can sex during periods be difficult and messy? Yes. But can it be a whole new experience if done with the right knowledge about what can be and what cannot be done? Yes, absolutely!
While the very thought of period sex and lactation sex can be intimidating and scary, for some even “eww”, there has been a lot of change in attitude towards this as time passed. Today this option is at least considered and this is progress. Having the right knowledge regarding facts is important before we make assumptions for ourselves. It is high time we debunk all non-scientific myths that have been prevailing in our societies for quite some time now. And Period Sex is one such myth!
Do’s of Period Sex
Firstly, Period Sex is a thing. Yes, you can do it. It is absolutely normal to have sex while your partner is menstruating. For a safe and wholesome experience, however, there are a few extra steps one might need to take.
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Protection- Even while your partner is menstruating, it is essential to use protection, particularly condoms. The risk of transmission of STDs is present even in this case. Hence to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies, protection is a must!
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Menstrual cups- Having inserted a menstrual cup for your periods, one can enjoy sex more comfortably, just like any other day. It reduces the discomfort one might experience during period sex. But be careful, it is advisable to empty your menstrual cup right before your intercourse. Otherwise, you might end up making an even bigger mess for yourself which we don't want right?
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Shower Sex- For those of you who are worried about the mess that period sex might make, shower sex is an effective alternative. There is no better time to try out new stuff like this than while in your period. However, it is important to be mindful of unforeseen issues like slipping or lack of caution, especially if it's your first time.
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Stack your towels- To practice hygienic measures while on your periods, make sure to lay new clean sheets and keep your towels ready to prevent excessive staining. Dark-coloured, soft and clean towels are preferable to prevent visible damage or staining.
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Lubricants- Though menstruation might provide the lubrication you might need, using the right one will escalate your intercourse experience.
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Communication- It is highly important to talk to your partner about what each of us is comfortable with. Communication is necessary to maintain healthy sexual relationships. Opening up about what you are okay with and what you aren't with is crucial in a relationship.
Don'ts of Period Sex
Just because you read the above precautions you should be mindful of, please don't run away staining sheets right away. These are a few of the things you should keep in mind that you shouldn't be doing.
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Don't hide your discomfort if you are not at ease with this idea. Talk to your partner and try to reach common ground. Don't push yourself beyond a certain level just to please your partner. Remember, the sex will not be a good experience either if y'all are not okay with this idea.
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Be sure to remove your tampons and use an empty menstrual cup before you get some action tonight.
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Don't forget to keep bed wipes and wet tissues ready at hand.
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Don't try this on days when you know that your flow will be at its peak.
Period sex is indeed a new form of magical intimacy with many benefits. Being intimate with your partner while she needs you all the more is something only real partners might understand. This will indeed help you elevate your relationship and make your bond stronger. So all that might appear too much externally, but be enjoyable. So never judge too early, know it all before you come to conclusions. Take these tips and put them to use on such days when your partner needs you the most. Who knows, this unique experience might be your new favourite.