Why do women fake orgasms? Secrets unlocked!

100 women 100 reasons why they fake it. But why do they feel the need to fake orgasms?During the early stages of sexual relationship women feel it’s necessary to release and appreciate their partner. However, this won’t help you or even your partner to understand each other’s needs. 

Women take time to release and sometimes are completely neglected by their partners.

Some of the most common reasons behind fake orgasms are:

1.  Wanting to make your partner feel good
2.  Being insecure or afraid
3.  Wanting to stop sex for some reason
4.  Being embarrassed or self-conscious
5.  Being worried about not getting an orgasm

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Sit around women and they would still lie about faking orgasms because they feel like they have to. Women deem it their responsibility to make their partner feel satisfied but are afraid to ask the same for themselves. 

There are several mixed opinions on “faking orgasms”. In a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior on the reasons why women fake orgasms, the researcher ended up in a number of conversations with women about whether or not they "faked." Some women said, "Of course, who doesn’t fake?" while others were shocked at the thought—"Women should demand an orgasm!" they said.

Looking objectively at the issue, we are likely to discover each woman with a unique reason for lying about it. Some fear losing their partner with lack of orgasms and feel they have to fake it. Some feel guilty for not being able to reach climax and talking with their partner feels like a task so it’s easier to just fake it and move on. 

Some gender norms also pressure women to feel the need to fake it. Patriarchy makes women feel the pressure of having to satisfy men first and not really focus on their own. 

Some other possible reasons for faking it:

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• You skipped the foreplay: Women enjoy the moments leading to it but if you directly jump into it, women may not enjoy it as much as a man.
• Same old moves: Exploring new stuff will spice up your sex life and help both partners orgasm. 
• Not the right time: Both partners being in the mood is the way to a good satisfying sex. 

What do we conclude from faking orgasms?

What we understand is that faking orgasm is not uncommon, and it’s more common when women think their partner might cheat on them or when they feel pressurized to satisfy their partner. These psychological processes don't grow all of a sudden but develop over time, as we interact with people in and outside of the bedroom. It’s important to understand that having a conversation is important. Talk to a sexual health expert and explore Gytree’s “Counseling and Therapy” packages to know more.